Superman or Clark Kent: Superman Never Let Me Drive
Dating a Clark Kent type after a lifetime of Supermans feels like driving on the wrong side of the road.
After some practice, driving is one of those things you can seem to do without thinking. Like dating the same type of guy over and over again , you often go on auto-pilot.
Sure, Superman’s features vary- different colors and models, some are luxurious, others are rugged, but for the most part they all have the basic package, same frills and performance that catches your eye. Once you familiarize yourself with the features of your new guy, you drive like you usually do.
Then one day, you meet a different type of guy, the Clark Kent type and you have to learn to drive on the wrong side of the road. The big difference isn’t the road, it looks the same, the difference is inside the guy. The buttons and pedals are in different places, you press one thing hoping to get a response and nothing happens or worse, you accidentally cause a malfunction. It can feel like opposite day every day.
Learning to drive this new guy can be scary and takes concentration. You may veer off the road and get scared, you might wonder if you should go back to the other more familiar side (Superman is still texting you, should you text him back?).
Like driving on the opposite side of the road you need to use caution, take your time, and accept that you will make mistakes. Clark Kent is a challenge worth exploring. Learn to maneuver a new type of person and you will see and learn a lot. Like driving through the United Kingdom, New Zealand or Australia for the first time, you begin to see and feel things you have never experienced before. Even though you are driving on the opposite side, you keep on going because the new scenery and feeling is amazing.
I met a Clark Kent a few months ago and I am learning to drive on the opposite side. I am learning some subtle and not so subtle nuances every day. Like communication, it’s important to him (historically I have always needed more frequent check-ins than the supermen I dated). If I don’t text my Clark Kent at our usual check-in times, he worries. Every day, he tells me and shows me that he cares, that I matter.
I am learning to let go of the steering wheel. I realize that I don’t have to drive every day. Some days he drives and I am his co-pilot, some days we both relax in the backseat and we get a driver. We take turns driving this crazy thing we call life.
Superman never let me drive.
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